Bivša ovisnica o seksu danas dijeli savjete iz toga područja, a u svojim je stavovima prilično radikalna
Stručnjakinja za seks otkrila je stvar koja bi ženama u vezi ili braku trebala biti alarm za uzbunu. Kontroverzna “sekspertica” Nadia Bokody tvrdi da bi svaka žena trebala odmah ostaviti partnera koji odbija spolne odnose s njom za vrijeme menstruacije.
— Daily Star (@dailystar) July 8, 2020
Takav nije vrijedan pažnje
Ova Australka, koja se dugo borila s ovisnošću o seksu, objašnjava da nema smisla pritiskati partnera da radi stvari koje mu nisu ugodne, ali muškarac kojemu se gadi prirodni proces krvarenja žene za nju nije vrijedan pažnje.
“Ako vaš muškarac odbija spavati s vama dok imate mjesečnicu, imate svako pravo prekinuti tu vezu. To nije pitanje poštovanja granica u seksu, to je alarm za uzbunu u svakom odnosu!”, izjavila je ona za Daily Star.
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I'm not interested in being the woman you want me to be. I'm done with living my life for other people's comfort. With wasting my time and my emotional energy on people who jump to judge me before they've taken time to get to know me and what I stand for. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I'm not going to hide my body and stay cloaked in shame to keep myself small for anyone anymore. I don't want to associate with people who believe women who proudly f*ck and show off their bodies are somehow 'lesser than'. That speaking about sex makes me an 'attention seeker' and posting nudes makes me a 'narcissist'.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I'm done with worrying whether my body, my sexuality, or my boldness offends someone's sensibilities. I'm done with being anything but authentically, brilliantly f*cking me.⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you don't like it, you know where the unfollow button is. My body is mine and mine alone. . NB: Part of owning your sexuality means you don’t have to accept being objectified against your will. For that reason, I’ll be blocking and deleting every man who uses this post as an excuse to objectify my body in a public forum. (Ironically almost all of whom won’t even bother to read this because they place my value in my external appearance rather than in my words.) Sorry, not sorry. . #bodypositivity #womensevolution #bodypositivepower #selflovewarrior #selflovefirst #selfcarefirst #mybodymyrules #mybodymyrights #mybodymychoice #bodyposi #bodypositivity #normalizenormalbodies #ihaveembraced #bodypositivemovement #bodypositivitymovement #bodypositivityquotes #bodypositivequotes #lovetheskinyouarein #effyourbeautystandards #lovetheskinyouarein #stillnotforattention #bpdrecovery #bpdgirlgang
Frajere smatra licemjerima
“Zabrinjavajući broj muškaraca nije u stanju uopće čuti riječ ‘menstruacija’, a da im se pritom ne okrene želudac. Ali to je tek jedan od najnevjerojatnijih procesa koji se događaju u svakome ženskom tijelu” objasnila je.
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I used to believe men were the gatekeepers of female sexuality. That they could use, objectify and publicly critique me as they pleased. That I “owed” it to them as a woman, to reciprocate their advances, or else, be quiet and compliant. I believed I should “expect” certain treatment from men, based on how my body looked and the way I dressed. That men’s unwanted sexual advances were my fault. I shouldn’t have shown so much skin. Shouldn’t have talked about sex on social media. And besides, I was told, “he was just trying to give you a compliment, don’t be such a bitch.” I used to placate men who sexually harassed me. I’d pretend I didn’t hear it, giggle it off, or attempt to educate them in a soft, coy way every time they made me feel violated. I tried to be the “cool girl” who didn’t get mad or draw a line in the sand. But being cool got me nowhere, expect exhausted and detached from my body and my sexuality. The thing is – and it took me a long time to learn this – it’s not my job, nor any woman’s, to teach men how to respect our humanity. It’s not our job to appease men – not even the guys who comment “Not ALL men. I respect women. What about me, hmm? RECOGNISE ME!” This is just another attempt to steal my power. For men to flip the narrative back around onto themselves and make their bruised ego more important than my sexual harassment. It’s also not an accomplishment, FYI, if you’ve made it through your life as a guy without violating a woman’s boundaries. You don’t deserve special acknowledgement, praise, or a personal comment back thanking you for not reducing me to an object in a public forum. It is a basic human right to be treated with respect and dignity. And so I won’t give men that, nor another giggle or a gentle, coy explanation as to why I’d really appreciate it if I wasn’t constantly objectified. Because my body and my sexuality are mine, and mine alone. . #empoweredwomen #feministaf #feministquotes #fuckthepatriarchy #equalityforwomen #thefutureisfemale #pussypower #womensupportwomen #workitwomen #womenhelpingwomen #feminismisforeverybody #endsexism
“Svaki frajer koji bez grižnje savjesti uživa u ženskome tijelu sve ostale dane, ali odbija seks tijekom krvarenja jer mu se gade tjelesne tekućine, nije vrijedan vašega vremena”, poručila je Bokody svim ženama.
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I used to believe sexual pleasure was something reserved for men. That my role in sex was essentially a performance; something I exchanged for a promise of ongoing love and security.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I used to sit on the toilet and wince after sex because my vagina hurt. It stung with rawness because I was never lubricated, so every penetration just felt like sandpaper.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I used to hide my body and my sexuality to avoid being labeled a 'slut' or 'attention-seeker'. My fashion sense was determined almost entirely by what I thought would gain me the most approval. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Then, a few years ago I had an epiphany. Like; an Oprah 'ah-ha!' moment. I learned that sex could be fun and feel good and even be entirely selfish. I learned to speak up in the bedroom when something didn't feel comfortable, and to ask for what I wanted. I learned to explore my deepest desires. And on the way, I found myself.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I found a woman who was free in her body and her sexuality and didn't feel the need to censor herself anymore. I found a woman who learned that actually, she was worthy of getting what she wanted, not just in bed, but in life. That woman might not gain as many ticks of approval or be as safe from judgement as her former self, but she's living her truth. And that's worth every sacrifice it's taken to get here. ✌️ . . #bopo #bodypositivitymovement #sexpositivefeminism #sexpositive #lovetheskinyourein #selfloveclub #selfloveisnotselfish #selfcarefirst #selfcaredaily #sexuality #feministaf #feminista